Let me start this post by saying: I am a slacker. I have been unmotivated to continue with this challenge for a long time. I have fallen off the wagon – and been somewhat remiss when it came to minding how I related to My Man for the whole time I did not open the book. I have no excuse – but I am resolved to getting back on and staying the course.
And wow, was today’s topic a fierce blow to the gut! The book defines irritable to be “near the point of a knife. People who are irritable are locked, loaded and ready to overreact.”
There are 2 key reasons that contribute to irritability:
1. Stress – I have been increasingly stressed out during the past few weeks. Why, you ask? As I look back, I realize that I am reverting to my old neurotic self. The Mrs. Clean who wants to keep an immaculate space all the time. The control freak who insists that things are done her way. The whackadoo who thinks that maybe her Little Miss and her Man
should can adhere to a schedule. Yes, THAT person I thought had gone away for a long, long time came back in full force. As a result, I was putting needless pressure not only on myself, but on my family as well.
2. Selfishness – “When you’re irritable, the heart of the problem is primarily a problem of the heart.” The book goes on to enumerate the other masks that selfishness wears:
– Lust (James 4:1-3)
– Bitterness (Ephesians 4:31)
– Greed (Timothy 6:9-10)
The dare: Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.
This post is linked to Simply Complicated… That’s Just Me…