Weekends are always VERY busy, when our itty bitty, laid-back family merges with that of my humongous, boisterous extended one, which explains my lack of posts regarding the Love Dare for two days. On Monday, I was just knackered from all the action of the weekend so I had no energy (read: brain activity nil) to mull over anything deeper than which nursery songs to sing to my Little Miss, much less sit down and write a proper post. And then last night, as I was about to click ‘publish’ our internet went AWOL and I got tired and sleepy and decided not to wait up for it anymore, which is a good thing because it didn’t come back until 17 hours later. So now that you have my
lame long winded excuses we can get on with the real topic at hand.
Day 4 of the Love Dare is about how love deliberately thinks loving thoughts that turn into loving actions. This chapter of the book reminded me of the time when I first fell in love with My Man up until the days before we got married – those days when I literally could not stop thinking about him. Before we had gotten married, it was a running joke in my family that My Man and I could not get enough of each other. We would spend the entire day together, and at night after he’d taken me home and he’d driven to his, the first thing he would do was call me up. At one point, my sister J asked me, “Don’t you guys ever get tired of each other? What else could you possibly still have to talk about?” Reminiscing on these days brought smiles to my face.
Then it goes on to talk about how things change, for most couples, after marriage. How easy it is to fall in a rut – as married couples, people start to get caught up on the mundane details of their daily lives and that replaces the enthusiasm with which they used to spend time together. One sentence stood out to me in the whole chapter: “Thoughtlessness is a silent enemy to a loving relationship.”
One of the first lessons I learned when our Little Miss joined our family is how to value the time My Man and I spend as husband and wife. Don’t get me wrong, we adore our Little Miss, but it’s great to be able to step out of the flip flops every once in a while to go on dates, like we used to BC (Before Child). Monday night was just such a night.
After finishing up with work, My Man asked me if I wanted to go see Inception which, by the way is one of the most incredible movies we have seen in a long time (if you haven’t seen it yet, GO! Call your significant other and watch the movie
now after you read this post!). It was the first movie we’ve seen in over a month (yes, genius. The last one was Eclipse which we watched on the first showing day – moving on). Asking me out on dates is a thoughtful act on My Man’s part, so that we could reconnect in ways that we couldn’t otherwise.
It’s a good thing that both My Man and I constantly and consciously endeavor to spend quality time with each other. We stop for a few minutes in the middle of the day to talk, give each other hugs and encouragement. We help each other out with chores if needed, and sometimes even when not. When arguments arise, we try to sort them out and make sure we don’t sleep without discussing and reconciling. We ask each other out on dates. So I was totally unfazed by:
The dare: Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
Hey, I could use a break after all the hard work dares 1-3 put me through.
This post is linked to Simply Complicated… That’s Just Me…