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The (Im)Perfect Life

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I received a text message from my Mom 3 nights ago that got me thinking. In her message she said: “Cy, you write so beautifully! I thank God for you – especially since you choose to see the good side of what we have/had and dwell on the positive life experiences. You make my heart swell with pride. I thank God because you confirm that God has blessed me with wisdom on how to raise my children. I love you.”

First of all, I know for a fact that my mom loves all her children equally. Her expression of gratitude for my seeing our family life in a positive light now is because she knows I have come a long way from the hard-headed, rage-filled, confused woman I was in my late teens to early 20s. I remember feeling much like a loaded gun, ready to go off at the slightest provocation – and a couple of times, I actually did.

From the message my mom sent me though, I realized that some of my readers, especially those who don’t know me ‘in real life’, might have been misled by my ramblings. Or at the very least think that I permanently have rose-colored glasses on.

Our family’s days have not been all sunshine, rainbows and puppies. Out of respect for them, I cannot discuss the events of the past; suffice it to say that our journey has been very rocky. But over the years as I have grown in my faith, I learned that God does not wish for me to live all the while holding onto feelings of resentment. I learned to forgive because I have been forgiven.

Isaiah 43:25 of The Message translation reads: “But I, yes I, am the one who takes care of your sins—that’s what I do. I don’t keep a list of your sins.”

I do not deny any of the unpleasant events and the difficulties we have had to endure as a result of them. They are there to remind us that we need His grace all the more. They are there to remind us that we have since overcome most of our trials as a family thus far, with God’s wisdom and guidance. They are there to remind us of His unfailing love.

They are there to remind us that we have a lot to be thankful for in our very imperfect life. And that is what I am – thankful.

Every single day.

The following quote based on Romans 8:31-39 best sums up what I want to say.

“Life will at times be difficult, often it is painful, and for now it is imperfect. But still it is good, for in all these things nothing can separate us from God’s lavish expressions of love.” – Julie Ackerman

Yes, it IS good.

Our large family pre-Little Miss from left to right: My brother-in-law B, holding their daughter S, my sister C, me, my brother J, my mom, my dad, my sister CJ, my sister J, my brother D and My Man. Whew!

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  • Joy

    I agree with your mom – you write so beautifully! And yes, we should be thankful for our imperfect lives because it's those imperfections that makes it so beautiful.
    My recent post First Birthday’s Sneak Preview

    • Thanks, you ARE my friend! Hahaha! 🙂

  • I think it's a good thing to use your blog as a way to build up your family and relationships. That bad stuff has a place, but it's perhaps in a different venue. That's exactly how I use my blog and if people think I've had some perfect life, they're wrong, but that's okay!
    My recent post The hearing play

    • I agree, I just know that sharing the darkness of my past with others on my blog isn't a good idea and it's not for me. Thanks for affirming that belief!

  • startraci

    My friend,

    I am glad that you choose to write, as well. I will walk with this quote today — "But still it is good". It is, indeed.

    My recent post Sundays in My City 2 — Convention Edition

    • It IS good. Thanks Traci. 🙂

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  • I was just reading in a book today that forgetting God's blessings are the easiest way to become ungrateful. 🙂
    My recent post Fun at the Farm

    • That is true! We tend to look at life and see the things we wish we could change or improve and that's not so bad. But dwelling on them, well that is another story! I have to constantly remind myself that no matter how seemingly unfair life is, I am still blessed. And blessed with so much! 🙂

  • Your mom’s text was so wonderful!

    • It is and I know she’s thankful that I am singing a different tune now than I was all those years ago. 🙂

  • Great points and sweet family! I am a firm believer that we tell God about the problems and tell God and everyone about the good stuff! I’m not perfect at it but working hard at it 🙂 Have a blessed day!

    • I know what you mean. I sometimes slip and complain a lot, and think my life is so hard. It’s during those times that God reminds me of His many blessings and I am humbled and grateful. Have a blessed day as well!

  • What a beautiful family!! I love the way you write because it often reminds me of how wonderful my life really is.  It’s so easy to overlook things in your own life…then you see someone else put things into perspective for you and it’s truly enlightening!! Thank you so much for linking up–I love reading what you’ve written!

    • Thank you for your kind words Kristen! I’m humbled by your praise. 🙂

  • Beautiful!! I so enjoy your writing, too, Cyrene. And I admire your CHOICE to focus on the positive and live life passionately! We all have to make that choice!!

    Tweeting this for Tweet Me Tuesday!

    • Thanks Melinda! I admit, some days it’s easier to do than others. But yes, it is a choice that we all have to make. 🙂

  • I remember in one, or maybe two, of your posts somewhere that you alluded to “tough times” in the past. The reference was brief and the words were vague, but I caught the meaning. I think we would all be fooling ourselves if we didn’t admit that all of us have had “troubles” of one kind or another at some point in our lives. How we deal with them, and turn them around for good, can be very private matters… many times not for public inspection. Like Joey said, there is a time and place for that type of thing. I believe we were all applauding you on how you did take God into your life and use His guidance to get you on the right track. Personally, I can tell – through your words – how much you are thankful for the blessings the Lord has bestowed on you and your family. You are a testament to your faith in God and you are being a witness to His wonderful saving grace. It’s not always easy, but there is always God.
    That is a suhhh-weeeet family photo! Nice! ♥

    • There is always a God! Amen. Thank you, as always, for your sweet and encouraging words Diana. <3